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Judith Bush's avatar

Susan, this post reminds us that the pandemic, with all its demands and devastation, is an opportunity to practice "radical honesty". In addition to the amazing creativity and generosity and hopefulness we need and see everyday on our screens and streets, there is very real loss of many kinds. It shouldn't be taboo to share about that too. You have led the way. Thanks!

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Susan B. Apel's avatar

Judith, I love the term “radical honesty.”

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Lyn's avatar

What makes you such a good writer is that you get the reader. You captured so many of my moments over these last weeks. Thank you.... good to know that I'm (we're) not alone as we move through this.

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Susan B. Apel's avatar

Thanks, Lyn. It’s been said many times and all the truer for it—we’re in this together.

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Dan Gottlieb's avatar

Susan, You're always a breath of fresh air and a brilliant gleam of sunshine, especially in these dark days. I really laughed about the linen closet- I am certain we all have that nagging list of tasks we claim we're going to do but never do. I give you so much credit for admitting that there are just things that don't bring us joy. I guess I should admit that pile of unfiled stuff atop my filing cabinet might not get filed during this pandemic. We look forward to seeing you again at NS again, whenever that's possible.

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Susan B. Apel's avatar

Hi Dan, thanks. Yes, don’t do the filing.

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Judy Payne's avatar

Thank you and thank you to daybreak for pointing me to your blog. I too miss the hugs and kisses, not even having a partner in my household. Luckily my dog is cuddly — who knew that he’d be my only source of touching for weeks!

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Susan B. Apel's avatar

Thank god for all of those pets who are serving as reliable and loving companions!

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Lyn's avatar

Thank you, Susan. I woke up to a long list of things I need to get at the store today and I am wondering what I can purchase that will enable our family, including one hungry 20 year old college boy, to stay out of the stores for a week. Love "profoundly uninterested" and "radical honesty." Interesting how moments of disruption allow us to be our true-est selves. It's very odd not having physical contact. Can't wait for this to be over.

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Susan B. Apel's avatar

Thanks, Lyn. If memory serves, feeding teenaged boys even under the best of circumstances is a continual challenge. Good luck!

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Sharyn's avatar

I love this sharing, your day journal looks like mine and when I looked at it on Sunday night, it scared me. On my walk with our dog Juilette today when we saw another person we were gleeful. I think most of us will be okay and end up being even better humans

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Susan B. Apel's avatar

The late Joan Rivers said the most frightening thing to her would be an empty appointment book. It is why she continued to work. I understand that now.

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Marianne B.'s avatar

Gosh how I miss our in person chats and hugs. Can I borrow “profoundly uninterested”? I have gained a few pounds already from my children’s stress baking. Alas, I ramble - grasping at your many wonderful straws you extended in your blog. Wishing you well. P.S. Fauci is my hero!

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Susan B. Apel's avatar

“Profoundly uninterested” has turned out to be the most quoted and best loved phrase from this post. And I thought it was only my own guilty secret.

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Nan Carroll's avatar

Nicely stated. I'm sure many, if not most, of your readers were nodding their heads in agreement! And nice to agree on more things, eh?

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Susan B. Apel's avatar

Thanks, Nan. Lots of agreement! Esp. about the housework.

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